Back in secondary school, Valentine’s Day was a huge deal.
That whole week was spent on ‘pre- valentine’ talk. “What will that our boyfriend buy for us?”
Everybody received such questions. Even when they already know that you are single to stupor. It was teasing of course. It was all part of the fun.
During the day, the girls who had boyfriends at home received their gifts. And those who had “night” hopes cheered and held their hearts in their hands hoping their boyfriends don’t disappoint, or worst, hoping their boyfriends don’t get them something that will make others laugh at them. Like a packet of chewing gum. 😂
The main action always occurred at night because every girl will mount layers of brown powder on their faces, with lips dripping with lip gloss. This ritual makes it really hard to differentiate between the “boyfriendful and the boyfriendless”.
Every body was expectant (perhaps a miracle might happen and you may get a gift from a secret admirer), so everyone was extraordinarily beautiful on that day.
During prep, the boyfriend association from the neighbouring school will pay us a visit, each bearing his own gifts. They would jump the fence, sneak in and throw the gifts through the window. We already know which gift is from whom, especially if we see the face of the guy delivering it.
Prep was always rowdy after their visits.
We would shout. The girls that received bountifully would blush and giggle, those of us that didn’t get shishi were their cheerleaders (we had to, if not, we would appear too dissapointed and nobody wanted to be tagged the a bad belle just a day after Valentine). Later that night, those of us that never got, would think about our lives and hope that maybe next year, a miracle will happen.
I understand that for girl’s mainly, there exist a certain pressure to be the recipient of a gift item on Valentine’s Day. It might be societys way to asking you to prove to them that you are desirable or there might be another reason, but either ways, the pressure is still existent and sometimes that pressure can be crushing. Because you would begin to question your ability to attract, your beauty and a host of other things.
But I want you to know that if you are a girl and you don’t receive gifts, you are still amazing and beautiful and desirable. You may not get anything now, but you have your whole life ahead of you to receive and give as much gifts as you like. And If you have a boyfriend and you don’t get gifts, know that gifts on Vals day is not an indices to measure affection. I love you and want you to know that. Don’t stress yourself biko.
If you can, take yourself out and reduce the heat. If that didn’t help, tell yourself how Valentine’s Day is a pagan day anyway. 😏
That Thick Girl.